Life: Sum of Experience

Wrath

2009-11-13T22:14:00.006+05:30

I may not be the best chef but I know enough of cooking and know how to cook for you, to sooth your tastes,
Now I will never cook for you and you shall never fulfill your desire of tastes or hunger.

I may not be the brightest, but I have enough knowledge and when I did your assignment you topped your class,
Now I will never help you and you shall never complete your studies or pass your exams.

I may not be most honest person but I am truthful to you and never ever lied to you,
Now I will never tell a truth to you and everyone shall betray you.

I may not be the ‘sex guru’ but I know enough, plus I loved you and gave you what I had in the limits of our relationship,
Now I will never even look into your eyes and you shall never fulfill your physical need.

I may not be the fairest of all but I look good enough and when I am with you I complement your looks,
Now I will never come even near you and you shall never have a companion or life partner.

I may not be able be to sit in my exam cause of my attendance but I still bunked classes just to be with u,
Now I will never even spend a single second for you and you shall spend your life in loneliness.

I may not be the person you loved but you will never find a person who loved you with heart, soul and everything they have,
Now I feel wrath for you and you shall never find true love.
I will never forgive and forget you.

I am the best and you cannot have me ever!

Coincidence

2009-11-12T01:08:00.001+05:30

2007 - Chinese year of the Chicken - Bird Flu Pandemic devastates parts of Asia

2008 - Chinese year of the Horse - Equine Influenza decimates Australian racing

2009 - Chinese year of the Pig - Swine Flu Pandemic kills hundreds of pigs/humans around the globe.

It gets worse........

Next year......

2010 - Chinese year of the Cock - what could possibly go wrong?

Note: A mail from a friend

why DO people marry?

2009-11-11T10:42:00.005+05:30

In looking for a partner for life there are a lot of aspects to consider. I don't think it's just love but that is of course the main thing. You have to have chemistry with someone in order to even begin to be interested. After that you have to share some of the same values and view on certain subjects. And Of course for all the shallow reasons like looks, personalities, interests and things like that but there are other reasons that are deeper also. Let me elaborate some of those.

Religion: We are living in a 100% Muslim country, so the obvious is that you marry because of the Religion. Your religion enforces you to fulfill the physical desires after marriage. As of now living together is not allowed in the Country. Not only that. But there are moral and religious ties that marriage is sacred and that it is God's plan for bringing families into the world. Not to mention the absolute security of knowing that your spouse is committed to only you and you to them.

Love and Commitment: People marry because they are truly in love with one and other and want to be committed to her/him forever. They embrace the differences, as married to an individual, not a yes man. One of my friends describes his marriage, ‘I love my wife dearly, my wife can't have children and adoption may not be an option, we both want a family desperately, but gave that up to be with each other forever.’

Social Pressure: One of my friends just returned after her Masters (25 year old girl). Her parents, relatives and friends constantly ask her “When are you going to get married? You’re not getting any younger”. When you feel this kind of Social Pressure, a lot of times when you meet someone or have been dating someone for some time but you’re still not sure about them, an internal light switch decides to turn on convincing yourself that this is Mr. or Mrs. Right now, automatically speeding up the process to get married. Were before you were just fine and content with the way things were. Now she herself asks “Am I marrying this person because it’s about time I settle down? Is it because I have wasted a lot of time with this guy (3 years)? All my friends, brothers and sisters are already married, having kids and I’m the only one left.” This is SOCIAL PEER PRESSURE talking.

Materialistic goals (security): With the high cost of living conditions in Male’ and with more than 90 percent renting out, the costs are still on an upward trend. In this kind of scenario, people can’t help but think about financial synergies that will bring if you marry someone who earns a lot, have a car or have a house. In addition to that you're splitting all the bills. The financial benefits are incredibly tempting. Apple-in-the-garden-of-Eden tempting, if you will.
Security, knowing that that person will take care of you if need be, could support you if something went wrong and you were unable to work, knowing they'll be a good parent, etc.

Centre of Attention: Some are in Love with the thought of getting MARRIED, not so much the person. For them it doesn’t really matter who they are marrying but the fact that they are getting married and they will be the center of attention, as well as having a fancy sparkling ring they can show off to all their friends.

Pregnancy: "I got married because I was pregnant. So there was no option, I had to marry." Someone told me. When a girl gets pregnant outside of marriage, she is looked upon with shame. In drastic cases, her parents would either whisk her off to an abortion clinic or force her boyfriend to marry her.

To start an own family (children): A large number of friends told me that they got married or plan on marrying because they want to have children. Also having kids is an enormous responsibility that should not be taken lightly. A friend said “My parents say I need to hurry up and get married to have children because my biological clock is ticking”.

Avoid Loneliness: Everything from scared of being alone, dying alone and no one to take care of you when you’re older, having no one to share the holidays with. Just the fear that they will always be alone or that they will not find someone else to share their life with leaves some people marrying.
-Fear of Losing Someone: You don’t want to lose this person, so even though you’re not 100% sure that this is want you want; you marry them so they don’t leave you.

Incongruent Beliefs: Some believe that marriage will be the savior off all their problems. Somehow by getting married, everything in their past will be erased and they will be able to get a fresh new start. Whatever problems they were running and hiding from in the first place, will somehow go away on its own when they marry.

Arranged Marriage: Some opt for an arranged marriage I if I hadn’t had met my own husband by chance. It’s not just culture or tradition, its handing over a bit of responsibility to parents or guardians to choose and find you someone compatible and who will treat you well and be your best friend etc etc

There are reasons why you should not get married and also in the process of courting you will find your partner giving ridiculous excuses to avoid marriage too.

So no it's not just love there are a ton of things that people look for in the opposite sex. Without most of these things you can't love someone but there are some that can split up the most in love couple out there.

Drink Up!

2009-11-10T14:36:00.006+05:30

I have observed that whenever, we (me and my friends) go for snacks, most of them leave out the glass of water without drinking. This also happened with my roommate when I was studying, I had to keep her literally at gun point to make her drink water.

I don’t know why people make it a hassle to drink water. Everyone talks about the importance of taking at least 8 glasses of water everyday but how many of us do. Water is an important requisite for the body. Will people drink if they really know the specific benefits of drinking water. Hence, let me elaborate the benefits drinking up!

Stay in Shape: If you gain even few pounds, you try to shed those extra pounds. But in zeal to have perfect shape most of people forget the important requisites. People start skipping food as well as drink less amount of water. But it leads to increase in problems. There are more benefits in ’beautifying’ you physically;
- Water acts as excellent appetite suppressant
- You never feel hungry as your stomach is full, if you drink enough water
- Water is calorie free so there is no harm in drinking water as you are not adding calories
- Water helps the body to metabolize the already stored fat
- Water helps keep our skin healthy and glowing
- Water helps in the reduction of wrinkling, and aids in our ability to flush fat, toxins, and any other unwanted or foreign substance from our bodies.

There is no proven fact that drinking water leads to increase in weight instead directly or indirectly it leads to decrease in weight.

Brain Function: Our brain tissue is actually 85% water; it is not difficult to conclude that water is essential for the optimum functioning of the brain. Plenty of water keeps our thought processes and brain function at optimal levels, and prevents headaches that are caused from not enough hydration.

Regulates Body Temperature: Water helps in regulating body temperature (act as thermostat). This is extremely important if you have fever.

Prevents Dehydration: Lower content of water in your body results into dehydration reducing the level of energy generated in the brain. Studies have shown that with prolonged dehydration, brain cells actually begin to shrink. Prevents dryness of the skin and facilitates the excretion of toxic substances such as urea, ammonia, uric acid, plus the fringe benefit of a healthy looking and youthful complexion.

Carry Nutrients: Water is responsible for carrying the nutrients along with oxygen to cells.

Shock Absorber: Water cushions and protects tissues, organs and joints thus acting as shock absorber.

Remove Toxins: Water helps in detoxifying human body by removing toxins and waste, this prevent frequent headaches which are often times due to such substances.

Constipation and Digestion: Adequate water intake also promotes regular movement because it prevents the formation of dry hard stool. It also helps in absorption of food. Increased water along with high fibre content is known to put end to constipation problems as constipation is regarded as main symptom of dehydration.

Reduce Gastritis: Water is also known to reduce gastritis, ulcers and even heart burn.

Clean Kidneys: Many Maldivians experience, kidney stones and other urinary tract infections (especially girls). Water helps in removal of wastes from kidneys which if accumulated can impair the functioning of kidney. Water protects the urinary tract from infection and stone formation. Bacteria could hardly succeed in colonizing the urinary tract for frequent urination washes away the bacteria, as well as the sediments (preventing the formation of stones).

What can You Do: Drink one half glass of water every hour (waking hours) and two glasses after each principal meal. If you forget to drink after one hour, take one glass of water the succeeding hour. This excludes your intake of other liquid. Eight glasses of water per day is definitely not enough.

Widen the Virtual Friends Circle

2009-11-09T16:10:00.005+05:30

Did you ever worry about your limited circle of friends? Today’s high technology and has provided us with the so-called Globalisation effect, where we can connect with anyone anywhere anytime. Thus, Social Networking plays a major role is this? Online social networking involves connecting and sharing information with other like-minded people via the Web.

When deciding which social networking site you should join, consider the features you'll need and the audience you hope to reach.

Do you want to meet your lost friends/classmates/colleagues, meet new people or just keep in touch with people? Be interactive and generate new ideas? Start/Sell a business? Learn new things? Socialize?

I am a person who is weak in the area of writing mails. Actually I am not very into writing long mails. But the social networking sites now provide an opportunity to maintain the relationship even via long distances. The following is a list of some of the more popular FOAF social networking applications.

The sites below are commonly used in the Maldivian Youth society and all offer free memberships, though some provide extra functionality if you pay for a subscription:

Facebook: This is the most widely and commonly used one in Maldives, which is operated and privately owned by Facebook, Inc. Users can add friends and send them messages, and update their personal profiles to notify friends about themselves. Additionally, users can join networks organized by city, workplace, school, and region.

Flickr: This is an image and video hosting website, web services suite, and online community platform. In addition to being a popular website for users to share personal photographs, the service is widely used by bloggers as a photo repository. There are special groups for Maldivians or people who share similar interest.

Twitter: This is also a free social networking and micro-blogging service that enables its users to send and read messages known as tweets. The 140 character limit on message length was initially set for compatibility with SMS messaging, and has brought to the web the kind of shorthand notation and slang commonly used in SMS messages.

Netlog: Similar to Facebook, in Netlog members can create their own web page, extend their social network, publish their music playlists, share videos, post blogs and join groups.

hi5: This is another similar website as FB and Netlog. Here, users create an online profile in order to show information such as interests, age and hometown and upload user pictures where users can post comments. Hi5 also allows the user to create personal photo albums and set up a music player in the profile.

Bebo: Bebo stands for “Blog Early Blog Often”, where each profile must include two specific modules, a comment section where other users can leave a message, and a list of the user's friends.

Zorpia: Lets you to share unlimited photos, post journals and make friends. It gives a customizable look and style.

Top 7 Exam Study Tips

2009-11-08T22:53:00.006+05:30

It is time for my students to get ready for the exam. So I wanted to write some tips that will help them to 'be ready’ for the exam. Here are some 7 most important things you can keep in mind when you prepare for your exams.

1- Pray
One of the important aspects of life is to allocate time for the prayers. Prayers not only help you to feel good and closer to God but prayers also help to improve your concentration skills. It helps you to relax and be content. Praying helps you to be organized and do things at the right time in the right way. God is in every aspect of your life, and without god’s will there is no success. Praying can bring you closer to God and make you feel a little stronger and relaxed going into test time. As the saying goes, Do your best and God will do the Rest.

2- Build Positive Stress
Stress is an unsettling emotion every individual experience. It can be divided into positive and negative stress. A stress is referred to as negative when you take an action that is incongruent or brings the worse effect. For example: Due to exam stress, you do not prepare and watch television to calm yourself. But positive stress on the other hand enforces and pushes you to more achieving actions. For example: Due to exam stress you make a study schedule and stick to it for your revision. This in the end gives you better results in the exam.

3- Eat Well
You will notice that when you study, you require a lot of energy. Hence, most students are drawn to junk foods like chips and cookies. However, you may find that those foods are not very helpful to your study habits. These foods make you lethargic. High sugar foods may give you energy at first, but then it plummets pretty quickly. Try to eat healthy "brain foods" high in protein like nuts, fruit, and fish. If you really need a boost of energy, try a diet coke or sugar free energy drinks.

4- Plan You Way
Study, Study, Study and Study. It is important for you to have all the information and examples you can use in your exams. Study and read not only the manual but it are important to listen to current news, read magazines or papers relating to the subject. The most important thing when you do these is to have a schedule to fit all the things you have in mind. Prioritize the subjects, focus on the weak areas, and get assistance from a classmate or the lecturer if needed.

5- Find a Study Group
Whether you study at home or at the institution, having a study group can be very supportive and helpful. It adds to your knowledge and you can share real life examples when you that is relevant to the study area . Your study group can also take turns quizzing each other. You can provide insight into certain topics for one and other. Sometimes you can just laugh and do something together to blow off some steam when the pressure gets to be too much (this makes a strong group). Just be sure your study group is actually focused on studying.

6-Individual Study
Some students may find it easy to study rather than a group. Also the group you attach yourself might not be into studies but may want to involve in other activities. Then it is time for you to do individual studies. Do past papers, talk to senior students (who have done the same exams before) and also read/highlight/make your own notes of the chapters. This will help as a last minute skim and scan resource. You can also make your own exam paper based on the previous papers and try to time yourself and answer it.

7-Have Fun
When you look back at a later stage of your life, you will remember how you cope up with the panic attacks and the stress of the exam. Exam is a stressful time but it is also one of the important times of the study life. Having fun at group studies, meeting friends and family, going for a bite to eat and just taking a break every now and then to energize yourself is as important as studying itself. This bring more vigor and enthusiasm for your studies.

This article is dedicated to my students. Another article will be published here on Exam Tips in near future.

Help Yourself: Be Kind

2009-11-05T12:21:00.001+05:30

When I set my goals I try to set separate goals for my personal development. I believe personal development comes when you raise and challenge the outside world. Doing a social work, volunteer work and/or just simply being kind gives a good feeling. We have been conditioned within our society today to be filled with mistrust of other's motives. As the saying goes in Dhivehi ‘No one will gift without an ulterior motive (my translation of a proverb).

But it is time we get out of this nutshell and narrow thinking, be open and make the social dilemma our own problem to solve. Simple gestures can contribute to make a better life for us. I ask myself;

Why do most people stare at an individual who is struggling in market?
Why not just walk over to them, and offer to assist them?
Why do most people keep a secret when your colleague smells but back bite about it?
Why not advice on being more hygienic?
Why do most people laugh when someone fall? And make it more embarrassing for the person?
Why not the assist them to stand, you never know, the person might have a serious injury?

In today's world, too many people hesitate to help someone they see struggle, too many are afraid to get involved. People with altruistic characters, can perhaps put it forward; others may "catch on" to this mindset as well. There are many things you can do for others but actually in the process you are helping yourself to become a better person, making the Earth a better place to live.

Just Practice Random Acts of Kindness

Strange BUT mostly true!

2009-11-04T22:37:00.003+05:30

The muscles in your heart have the strength to shoot your blood 10 meters in the air

Multiplying 111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321

Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump

The body's strongest muscle is our tongue

A pig's orgasm lasts 30 minutes!!

Statistically, people are more afraid of spiders than they are of dying

All polar bears are left handed

Crocodiles cannot stick out their tongue

Butterflies taste with their feet

A cockroach can live 9 days without its head. It only dies because it cannot eat

Humans and Dolphins are the only animals that have sex for pleasure

A duck's quack has no echo, and nobody knows why

It is impossible to sneeze with your eyes open

Starfish have no brains

The word "cemetery" comes from the Greek koimetirion which means dormitory

It is impossible to suck your elbow

Mosquitoes have teeth

Gastroenteritis or Gastric Problems or Vai Hedhun

2009-11-03T23:11:00.006+05:30

Almost all of my friends have/had Gastroenteritis at some point of their life. This is commonly known as gastric problems or 'via hedhun' (in Dhivehi). Most of us (including me) don’t know how we get infected with this disease and how to avoid and/or recover. I have had this problem over the last two years.

I found that a viral infection is often considered the main cause of gastroenteritis.

My friends and family have suggested and advice a lot of things about this issue. Some, of course are contradictory with one and other. But based on my bad experience of gastric problems I can assure that anyone can recover within a short time by drinking fluids and following the prescribed diet/should do’s.

Tonight is one bad night, I even feel vomitish. I am guessing the reason for tonight’s discomfort is eating out, from restaurants. Commonly, when I have gastric problems you get a digestive problem in which the stomach and the intestines are inflamed (swollen). Also, there may be other symptoms such as,
-Diarrhea (not happened to me yet)
-Excessive vomiting
-Nausea
-Abdominal cramping, bloating or pain

Anyone suffering from gastric problems has to avoid certain foods, until s/he feels better. One can easily recover from this disorder by following a proper diet that prevents fluid loss.

Should do's:
-Take a lot of liquid: as diarrhea causes dehydration. Excessive vomiting and frequent stools reduce the quantity of water and electrolytes in the body.
-Drinking clear fruit juices or other beverages.
-Drink strong tea: this is a traditional method to cure gastric problems. It can help relieve the patient's pain.
-Eat foods like white rice, apple sauce, white bread and bananas.
-After the symptoms subside, one may include solid foods (white toasts, dry cereal).
-Prefer home cooked food and avoid eating outside.
-Have frequent small meals that are spaced evenly throughout the day.
-After few days, the patient can start eating cooked vegetables, fruits and low fat milk products in small amounts.

Avoid:
-Greasy and citrus foods: they can aggravate the condition.
-Dairy products such as ice cream: can aggravate diarrhea.
-Consumption of caffeinated beverages such as coffee: they can make matters worse.

Waste: Reduce-Reuse-Recycle

2009-11-02T13:51:00.002+05:30

There is an environmental ‘hungaamaa’ these days. Everyone is ‘so’ into sea, swimming, diving or snorkeling. People are more into cleaning and cleansing. This is only a small part of what we can do about the environment. The question is how many of us have actually given a thought about this serious problem of waste management.

Waste is something that will accumulate, become a trouble and problem in the long run if we don’t pay enough attention to it. The different types of waste we generate in Maldives fall into three main categories.

Solid Waste Disposal: Solid wastes include domestic and industrial wastes of organic and inorganic origin and variable size, ranging from small tins to whole cars. Waste quantities in islands and in the Maldives will generally increase as the population increases, but will also increase on a per capita basis as the standard of living improves. Higher percentages of paper, plastic, glass and metal can be anticipated in future.

Sewage Disposal: Sewage poses a series of potential problems depending on the mode of disposal; discharge of raw, untreated sewage into the marine environment causes nutrient enrichment, algal blooms, and deoxygenating and human health problems depending on the siting of the outfall. Such conditions adversely affect coral growth. Sewage-related problems are of concern around the densely populated islands and some tourist resorts.

Waste Oil Disposal: Waste machine and lubricating oils associated with small-scale machine shops present a problem in some islands; current disposal seems to be simply into the ground around the workshop concerned, resulting in contamination of groundwater supplies.

Any waste can be dealt in simple steps and things each one of use can do individually. This will then, act as a cumulative force to manage waste. The important steps are the 3Rs;
Reduce- Reuse-Recycle

Develop Lazy Efficient Projects

2009-11-01T14:08:00.003+05:30

My work requires me to use several software packages every day. And I have loved them all, because it makes life easy. If software or a computer can do it, why should I do it manually? Hence, MS project is one I used mostly. But I find that most of my friends are not very familiar with MS Project. The following is dedicated to my very close friends Sofi and Hamyd.

10 BENEFITS of MS Project;

1. Develop and maintain project: It allows you to plan, control and oversee all phases of a project. You can start off with establishing a project calendar which dictates the working hours of the project. Resources can be assigned to the tasks to control the effort and duration for each task.

2. Use Templates: Like all other software MS Project allows you to use templates. Even though, every project or business has different needs, common needs are addressed in these templates.

3. Use existing data: Use a list of tasks written down in excel, word or any other program, with few tabs/strokes and copying them into MS project. This can, then be developed to a project and maintained in MS project.

4. Generate Reports and Charts: Overview of the activities, progress and many more reports can be generated with only a few clicks (overview, current activities, workload, costs, assignments and also customized reports) if the data is entered properly. This allows tracking the status of all the activities/tasks.

5. Estimate Timelines: When a timeline is required, by focusing on the creation of tasks with either a low, medium, or high level of effort, you can quickly provide an estimate based on what you feel is the work required for the particular project.

6. Generate Mind Maps: This is very useful for facilitators and people with visual learning skills. When an MS Project file is opened using ‘Mind Maps manager’, a mind map (visual diagram) is generated which helps in facilitation.

7. Effectively communicate information: Easily present information in various formats according to the needs of stakeholders. You can format and print one-page schedules or other reports. Use the Copy Picture to Office Wizard to smoothly export Project data into MS Word for formal documents, Excel for custom charts or spreadsheets, or MS PowerPoint for presentations.

8. Track projects according to your needs: A predefined set of tabs helps you to track data (percent complete, budget versus actual, earned value, and the like) relevant to your needs. You can track project performance over the project lifespan by saving project snapshots in up to 11 baselines.

9. Manage scope of projects: MS Project can help avoid one of the major problems, Scope lags. When your project Sponsor/Customer approves your plan, you can save a Baseline for the project. This Baseline can be compared to the actual progress reports during the life of the project. MS Project draws attention to any lagging tasks and allows you to deal with them appropriately.

10. Comparison with other project: MS project has the ability to make apples-to-apples comparisons of the status of multiple projects and budgets.

Sitting, Waiting, Wishing

2009-10-31T23:30:00.000+05:30

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'Should Take' when You Travel

2009-10-30T14:25:00.004+05:30

Travelling! Wow! Even thinking about travelling gives me an exciting feeling. One thing I enjoy a lot. And currently I am craving to get out. I guess it is not only me. But most of the people I know share this hobby. Experiencing another culture, place and getting to know new people adds to the experience to in life. This makes living a Life. I have done a little bit of travelling in life. From what I have experienced there are things without which the travel is incomplete. In other words the necessities of ‘a travel’, whether you travel alone or with a companion/s. It helps to make your travel a ‘travelling escapade’.

1.- Companion/s: Specifically if you travel with a companion; the most important thing is good companion, without which your travelling experience might turn into a nightmare or a phobia.

2- Camera: To cherish the memory at a later date, you need to make a good collection while you are at the site

3- Cash: Some of the area/locations or natural habitats will not offer the luxury of ATMs or credit/debit card facilities, so it’s safe to always carry cash with you

4-Carry Light Weight: Adopting to travel light can also be considered as one this you should take. You can avoid a lot of things. Even if it is clothes, shoes and other accessories, carry only limited stuff. But I would opt to shop and leaving a day just to shop before I start the travelling ‘travel’ from the country. By doing so, you get to fulfill another hobby (shopping!)

Realizing Life’s Call

2009-10-29T12:41:00.006+05:30

Where is MY Life Leading? This is one question I asked myself over the years. I believe there is no way we can know about it. Even though it is believed that through palm reading and other black magic stuff you can predict your future. Some says through Horoscope it’s possible to know where you’re leading. Of course, you get a horoscope reading every day. But I believe there is a step each and every one of us can do to create our own paths in Life’s Journey.

The simple act of goal setting and acting on it clears your path. Some of us find it difficult to set goals or we don’t know what we want in life. I had the same difficulty. I wanted so many things in life in so little time. And most of the things I perceived as ‘wants/needs’ were contradictory to one and other. For example: I wanted to be a housewife with 4 children and a loving husband but at the same time I wanted to be free as bird, travel on impulse and be the hiker. Hehe.

Mainly there are two steps to reach your destiny;
1- Identify your wish and what you need in life
2- Plan and act to achieve it

A friend asked me the miracle question, which the answer provides what I really want and value in Life (Realizing Life’s Call ). She said, ‘Imagine, you have got a magic lamp and when you wake up tomorrow you get to make one of your dreams/wishes come true. Visualize with color pictures (descriptively) what wish it and how you want tomorrow to be?'

What do you see? Family? Greenery? Money? Travel? Friends? Career?

The answer can be stunning! Even if you thought your needs and wants are…blah blah… what you truly value or want is seeing through the eyes of your mind. This gives a general idea of where you want to lead your life. This is the first step to identify and know the bigger picture.

Then, you need to strategize your goals and actions (which is a whole other story). Take small steps, achieve one goal at a time, cumulatively bound together to get the outcome.

Secret to Great Relationships

2009-10-28T08:52:00.004+05:30

When Adam was sent to Earth, he was sent with his better half Eve. From the time humans started living and populating this earth relationships and companionships became an important part, without which the Earth would not exist.

There are different levels and different kinds of relationships; we have with our people around us. We have our family, friends and colleagues. Apart from that we have acquaintances, well wishers and enemies too.

I am not a relationship ‘Guru’ but with all the lessons learnt, I can share the most important pillars of a relationship. A relationship is a three legged tool. Without any the relationship would not be stable and at a point will cripple..

Trust: If you can keep secrets (your mouth shut) and things confidential you have no worry in this area.

Care: If you can’t care for another person you cannot care for yourself. What you want and wish for yourself, want it for your friend or another? As a result you become a good person, establishing good relationships.

Respect: To get respect you have to give respect. Respecting does not refer to opting for higher level of language but it’s just giving another’s space, valuing the thinking, ideas and specially values.

Seek Happiness in Life

2009-10-27T10:23:00.003+05:30

The whole purpose of living is seeking happiness in life. As the saying goes, you can have money but you can’t buy happiness. Whatever you do in life, the underlying purpose is to achieve happiness. The most important things that will give you happiness in life are simple. Thus, you can achieve happiness by mere change of your behavior.

1. Think Positive and Be Optimistic: Life throws many different situations; at times you are content, upset, sad or mad. Whatever the situation is, re-structure your thoughts about it positively. There are people out there who have faced the same or similar situations. For worse, people who have faced or are facing worse situations. Every happening in life is a lesson. A lesson learnt, whether good or bad.
How can you achieve Positive Thinking: Whenever your brain forces you to think of a negative situation, slide it through (like a picture slider) think something happy, something positive. Take the situation and take one action at a time to overcome. The cumulative of actions makes the situation better.

2. Good Relationships: Establishing a close group of friends, a caring life partner or family members close to you forms a good support system to you. In crisis or not they are always there. The emotional support and the companionship allows you be content in life. You get to enjoy the most expensive luxuries of life with minimal contribution.
How can you establish Good Relationship: The three pillars of relationship are Trust, Care and Respect, whether you call it a love affair or friendship or a family. Any relationship will become robust with strong pillars.

3. Live with Vigor: Make your mind, body and soul active. Engaged in some activity. Challenge your brain. When you become active, you use your time effectively and lack the time to get bore. Even at work or at home. Have a zest for life.
How can you be engaged: The simplest thing you can do to engage yourself is to set new Goals. Work and achieve goals. There are many things you need to make yourself engaged in new things. Simple and Stupid situation you successfully scrub your brain and body.
Enjoy what You Do: Enjoy anything and everything you do. Find your purpose in life. What you want to do. Make your work environment, something you love to do.

23 Romantic Ideas

2009-09-19T03:02:00.001+05:30

1.Write a Love letter: not a mail, in this high tech era
2.Share a dessert
3.Write a love note and keep it in a place which is least expected.
4.Hold hands in a Restaurant, public places: this is one of my favorites, to bringing the sensuality.
5.Go swimming or diving; the after effect will be enthralling
6.Play a game of Truth or Dare, U never knw where it will lead to ;)
7.Ask for a formal date, with candle lights n music.
8.Go on a fun date, like white water rafting
9.Say I love you when least expected
10.Touch, kiss n caress often: kiss on palm, forehead or just hold lightly
11.Use warm candles, all around the room: aromatic candles would be best, with the smell and cozy lights
12.Share a kurumba at the gaadiya
13.Go short distance hiking ending to a waterfall (optional play hide and seek)
14.Play a game of I like and love: tell the partner what you love and like about them
15.Imitate or do role play of a very romantic scene/act
16.Say sorry and mend things quickly
17.Make a bedding or a seat with rose petals
18.Go for a walk hand in hand, talk and share
19.Make jokes and laugh till you cry
20.Spend a night under the full moon in the beach
21.Go night fishing, sailing or painting
22.Dedicate a love song, send a love mms, sms, mail or use a loving screensaver at home computer
23.Moral of the above list: Whatever it is you enjoy doing do it together! Or do it for the other! hehe

Faking to Make it

2009-06-23T23:10:00.003+05:30

I see you everyday, you are all around me
Joking, smiling, laughing and making faces
But I don’t feel you, I don’t feel you around me
I miss you, Maybe it my conscience,
It might even be my imagination, an unrealistic
But what I know is that I miss you more

I don’t feel complete, Incompleteness is part of my life
The life I chose to love, without you forever
But who is to blame? Me? You? Or another?
Whoever it is, do you feel the same?
Do you feel what I feel?

I miss you to the core. The deep feeling makes me blue
Makes me sick,that’s how much I miss you!But do you miss me?

I search for you when you are around
Overlooking the inbetween lines
I need to call you but I can't
Rather I will make mayself suffer
N
Miss you more,
fake happiness, till I make it!

Wrong Reasons to Get Married

2009-06-22T23:32:00.003+05:30

1. Want to be free from parents
2. To have sex
3. To ease loneliness, because you are afraid to be alone
4. To be happy
5. To be an adult
6. Because of a pregnancy
7. Because everyone else (sp. frenz) are getting married
8. Because you want someone to support you
9. He loves you
10. To get out of your parents house
11. To save or help someone
12. Because you want a baby
13. For money
14. Because your biological clock is ticking
15. You've always wanted a fancy wedding
16. Out of fear that no one else will want to marry you
17. For immigration purposes
18. To fill the emptiness you feel inside
19. To make someone jealous or to get even with someone
20. You are simply dying to plan your dream wedding
21. You want desperately to be a bride, wear a beautiful dress, open lots of presents and go on a dream honeymoon
22. You want to get married because you want to feel special
23. Because there is no reason not to get married

.....is not a friend

2009-05-27T22:44:00.001+05:30

Whoever shares with you wants to unburden the emotional turmoil but is not a friend
Who acts that they care for you is a manipulator but not a friend
Anyone hanging out with you wants to pass time but is not a friend
Everyone who smiles at you, is an acquaintance and is not a friend
The one who lives and cook with you, is looking for the easy life
Each one who talks with you is a social contact
Someone you cant trust, respect and care is not a friend!

Selfishness

2009-05-06T10:54:00.003+05:30

So true your feelings maybe
But I can’t bear to see you flit and flirt
I m so selfish and jealous
Hands cupping my heart
Stopping it to beat for you

'S' Pleasures of Life

2009-02-27T13:49:00.006+05:30

Scrubbing your Soul: by any and every mean.
Sleeping: till you feel content, can be an hour or MORE.
Sex and Sensuality: enjoying it to the brink.
Straining your body: with exercise and activities.
Selective eating: balanced diet with a bit of junk food.
Showers: hygiene and answering ‘nature calls’ on time.

I love you BUT I can't tell you

2009-02-18T20:35:00.006+05:30

Tell me why I feel this way,
And why I can't tell you.
I feel things for you,
That I've never felt for anyone,
Yet I can't tell you.
I don't know if you feel it,
And I can't ask you.
I'm willing to forsake anything,
Anyway I can get you,
If I can't have you as my love.
Then I want you as my friend,
I can't tell you any of this.
I'm afraid I'll lose you,
I'll lose your laughter
And the sweet tease.
But "bokkura needs to kabban to Odi,
Odi will never kababban to bokkura"
That’s not how the world work
So I can't tell you.
With your mind and heart,
I want you to love me.
With everything you have,
The way I feel for you.
But I can't tell you.

13 Reasons Y Men Lie!

2009-01-30T02:59:00.005+05:30

Samples extracted from real life situations.
1. It’s their habit (Chronic Lying): Nice dress, it highlights your curves, sweetheart.
2. He wants something from you (yes! The obvious, SEX!): Loabi! It’s a cold night. Let’s stay indoors and feel at ease!
3. To stop girlfriend from nagging: Ofcos, Sweety! I love you. But you and no one else.
4. To make you feel good: I love your ‘fuppi kukulhu’ hairstyle...It’s so stylish (laughing inside).
5. To protect their EGO (will lie about Image, capabilities and to protect reputation): She’s my 111^th gf (telling frenz)
6. The truth hurts: She never dumped me but I was the one who said that I didn’t like her pimple in the navel (in reality the gal dumped him).
7. Infidelity: Love! Had loads office meetings at office. Love! I am working this hard for our future. (was with another gal)
8. Immaturity:I am sure, I am the best thing that happened to you.
9. Desire not to take the blame: You never told me we were going for a party tonight (but the gf did tell him the previous night)
10. Fun and enjoyment: I am single; my girlfriend dumped me for another man! (in reality the guy is married)
11. Popularity and cheap publicity: Really! I had my first exposure when I was only seven.
12. To escape punishment: Yes, Darling, I called for an appointment. They said it’s over.
13. To cover up other lies: Oh! Yes, they will call up when the docs available.

Note: These lies might be told by gals as well. But this one is jus for men.

It's a Small World

2009-01-21T10:44:00.002+05:30

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27 Ridiculous Excuses (by Men) to avoid Marriage!

2009-01-19T15:53:00.003+05:30

1. Darling, money is tight. (Common, you can marry in court for MRf 700?)
2. I want to wait till I find a good job.
3. My career is really important! You know??
4. I'm changing my career path, I want to be a Prof. of Fujimori!
5. I want to get my second Masters in Dhumaari fumening.
6. My mom/family says you aren’t the one. (Are U marrying his mom/family?)
7. My parents says I must not marry a %?#@!$$! woman.
8. My older siblings are still single; I need to wait for my turn.
9. I want my uncle's sis to be around for the wedding but he cannot travel due to medical reasons.
10. My divorce hasn’t come through yet. (He will tell you that his ex wife refuses to sign the papers).
11. Let me seek spiritual help first to check for compatibility! (Do they do horoscope matching still? How outdated!)
12. I just can’t feel the connection. (He couldn't check for compatibility before sleeping with you?)
13. I want to seek the face of God first. (He needs to die and go heaven to reach this)
14. Love, Why the hurry? Let’s hold up a little longer because I’m not the divorce type. I want us to know each other before we enter this union.
15. Let’s not rush things darling, it is a lifetime decision. Remember? (Tell him about that whenever he wants sex.)
16. There are some things I still need to figure out about you. (after 2-5yrs of dating. Sigh!)
17. I'm just not that into you. (Nice way to tell that he doesn’t LOVE you)
18. I want you to change into @$!$EWR#%!!#R! (1001 things) (He wants someone else, not you)
19. I don’t think we know each other well enough (3 yrs isn’t enough time?)
20. I have been having these disturbing dreams lately; I just need some time to pray over it.
21. If we got married, I’m sure we’d start to take each other for granted.
22. I don’t want to rush things; I love to let things take its natural course.
23. It's not me or you, the world are just against us being together.
24. I don’t think I’m marriage material. (Tell that he is commitment material)
25. Why spoil what we have over a piece of paper that says we are man n wife.
26. If you rush into marriage, you will rush out of it.
27. I want to own a land in Male’ and build a ‘Taj Mahal’ for you before I get married. (Close to impossible, isn’t it?)

Three Degrees of Separation

2009-01-18T13:09:00.006+05:30

Even Microsoft has suggested that somewhat-discredited theory of "six degrees of separation-1967" may be accurate. I believe that those degrees may have changed over time, thanks to increasingly powerful communications technology. Of course, if it's true that communications technology is decreasing our degrees of separation, then it should continue to decrease at a decent pace. But could we have already made the jump down to just three degrees of separation?

According to Jeff Rodrigues, a social networking specialist that carried out the study, 97 percent of the participants said they felt more connected to people today than they ever have in the past and for older respondents, email and mobile phones (most common method of communication Maldives! Isn’t it?) were the key factors in reducing the degrees of separation. But for those in the younger generation, Facebook (again true) was the main factor. Text messaging (OMG! Seems like this was done on Maldives, hehe) was also mentioned as an important component in reducing degrees of separation.

Hence, the three degrees of separation can be true “in Maldivian context” based on the above study, technological facts and population. As the Maldivian population narrows the overall world population for each “connection” - so it should be no surprise that the degrees of separation are a lot smaller in Maldives, in fact it might be even less than three degrees!

Maybe it is time to revisit previous studies in a more robust way. It could help silence the critics who believe Facebook and the rest are nothing more than places for kids to waste their time. The “Three Degrees of Separation-Experiment” will tell us what we are looking for. Let’s face it – how often will you find one service or industry that can totally transform the way people are connected?

Human Massacre

2009-01-16T14:00:00.000+05:30

If Israel only seeks to stop the rocket attacks coming from Gaza as they claim, then surely a heavy assault and killing upwards of 900 people will not help. Mass violence and death does not send a clear signal of peace, and does not sway the civilians of Gaza towards peace.

The focus is on the innocent children of Gaza, attacking and killing schools and children unarmed have become a habit. Parents and loved ones are killed in front of the children, leaving them to shock and the emotional traumas. Talk about the human rights! Talk about the inhumanity! Where are the people who ‘blow trumpets’ about these? Where are they hiding?

To share a story I witnessed: A seven month child was placed on the track. The child can only crawl. Beauty radiated from the child. Smiling with toothless gums, waving the small arms and talking using children language. She was placed on the verge of the tracks cement placement. The Israeli soldier kicked the lovely baby, on the abdomen. The baby moved like a football moving into a goal. The baby dropped into the sea. The baby sank. Drowning but smiling; in front of my eyes. I was there, all along, I was there but I couldn’t do a thing. I dived in, but to my fear I couldn’t save the baby nor could I catch. The horror left me shaken.

I was shaken. Crying and scared I woke up. It was just a dream, where I tried to play the heroin. I am troubled and worried when awake or asleep. Wished, hoped and prayed god to give paradise to all martyrs. To relieve the pain and give courage beyond belief. To bestow PEACE! God will, if not no one will!

Change!

2009-01-14T01:15:00.004+05:30

She was waiting. Hoping that he will accept her as she is. Her dress code, makeup, manners, speech and even the tone. She wanted to believe the compromise and change he wanted was the love. What she failed was......

People are who and what they are. She didnt want to change though there is a potential for change. She didnt want to change just because he wanted her to be more better....different. Snakes bite, wolves howl, rooster sings, and scorpions sting. That's just how is it. Why cant he accept that she can't turn frog into a princess or vice versa, no matter how many times you kiss him?

For every day she waits, there is another day she'll never get back. Another day wasted!

Better Together

2009-01-14T01:09:00.001+05:30

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Emotional landscape

2008-12-26T13:15:00.003+05:30

Today she is reliving a memory in her mind! She had volunteered to offer counseling to a group of Maldivians – who had suffered great loss in Tsunami 2004. She was daunted by this task. These people had suffered one of the worst experiences – loosing of loved ones, loosing of lifetime wealth in fraction of seconds and everything washed away. Then came the long days in relief camps, fear of water in the water locked country and corpses which cannot be identified. This haunted them, fearing the corpses were the family or loved ones lost. What could she offer these people in terms of help? How could she possibly relate to their suffering?

She thought … “what do all these people want to talk about, once they could see a counselor?”

It was all: I met this guy when I was living in the temporary relief camp, and we fell in love. I thought he really loved me, but then we were separated after the relief shelters were built up, and he took up with my cousin. Now he’s married to her, but he says he really loves me, and he keeps calling me, and I know I should tell him to go away, but I still love him and I can’t stop thinking about him. And I don’t know what to do…..

This is what we are like. Collectively as a species, this is our emotional landscape. She read a book and found a myth which said “There are two questions that human beings have ever fought over all through history: How much do you love me? And who’s in charge?” Everything else is manageable. But these two questions of love and control undo us all, trip us up and cause war, grief and suffering.

Bittersweet

2008-12-25T17:42:00.000+05:30

The perfect couple! The most expensive wedding! A fully furnished apartment! And seven years of dating and courtship in bliss!

But after eleven difficult and torturous months of marriage she left her husband. When she finally made that decision she thought the worst was over. She stopped knowing him. They shocked each other by how swiftly they went from being the people who knew each other best in the world to being a pair of mutually incomprehensible strangers who ever lived.

At the abysmal fact that they both were bottom of strangeness was the fact tht they were both were doing something the other person would never have conceived possible: he never dreamed she would actually leave him, and she in her wildest imagination thought he would make it so difficult for her to go.

It was her belief that when she left her husband that that they could settle the practical matters in a few hours with a calculator, some common sense and a bit of goodwill towards the person they’d once loved. However, in few days she found that she was at a loss. How do you negotiate once you have offered everything? She could do nothing but wait for his counterproposal. Her guilt at having left him forbade her from thinking she should be allowed to keep even a dime of money she had made in the last decade. Not even any of her wedding or birthday gifts.

Time elapsed, without any word but silences were broken by his occasional communications reminding what a criminal jerk she was.

What was left of her was just her withered soul. She took her refuge from her nearest and closest friends: Mr. Loneliness and Ms. Depression!

Metaphysical Crisis

2008-12-20T00:24:00.003+05:30

When I was nineteen years old, going on twenty, I experienced a true metaphysical crisis. It all happened when I was on leave in School holidays. I was going to be twenty in January, and there was something about the transition from nineteen to twenty- from teen to ty- that shocked me into genuine existential panic. I remember thinking life was passing me by so fast. It seemed only yesterday I was in primary. Soon I would be middle aged, facing the middle age crisis, then elderly facing menopause, then dead. And everyone else was aging in hyper speed, too.

Everyone was growing old.

My sense of helplessness was overwhelming. What I wanted to do was pull some massive emergency brake on the universe, like brakes I'd seen on fast racing , motorbikes!! I wanted to call a time out, as I did in my volley matches, to demand everybody just STOP until I could understand everything.

To my horror, here I am turning twenty wishing to be in Neverland with Perter Pan. The closer I watched time, the faster it spun, and the days went by so quickly that in made my head hurt, and at the end of everyday I remember thinking, "Another one gone" and bursting into tears.

The day came! I stomped, cried and hid from all the good wishes....

Men and boyfriends

2008-11-26T00:21:00.004+05:30

Its a kind of emergency life-saving policy, more than anything else. She got started in life with the pursuit of security and romantic pleasures. She barely had an adolescence before she had her first boyfriend, and she has consistently had a boy or a man (or sometimes both) in her life ever since she was twelve years old. That was - oh, lets see about 15 years ago, now. That almost two decades!! Since then, she has been entwined in some kind of drama with some kind of guy. Each overlapping the next, with never so much as a week's breather in between. And she cant help but think that something of a liability on her path to maturity.

Please dont go away

2008-11-25T11:30:00.000+05:30

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Y shud life be practical?

2008-11-22T09:47:00.003+05:30

But why must everything always have a practical application? She'd been such a diligent soldier for years-working, producing, never missing deadline, taking care of loved ones, her health and family liabilities, voting...etc..

Is this lifetime supposed to be only about duty? In this dark period of loss, did she need any justification for flying and wandering in India other than that it was the only thing she could imagine bringing her any pleasure right now? And it wasn't that outrageous goal, anyway, to want to travel in India. Its not like saying ' I wanna travel round the globe with 500 bucks'.

Travelling is something you can actually do. So she took tickets in and just left without a word to family. Her friends thought this was frightening, craziness, madness, too impulsive and hilarious.

and yes now when she thinks about it. And believes that it was a madness and craziness that drove her there... alone (a gal in tht matter), without a caretaker or anyone known to her, travelling in buses, trains and rickshaws from north end of the country to the most south.

Yet she still thinks, it's the most wonderful adventure she had had in her life, sharing it with her camera only!

SHUCKS

2008-11-19T14:32:00.001+05:30

moods swinging
hoods taking
looks changing
books coming
but the only thing I wanna do is
Eat, pray and love

FUCK

2008-11-03T12:49:00.000+05:30

In ancient England , people could not have sex without consent from the King.
When people wanted to have a child, they had to solicit a permission to the monarchy, in turn they would supply a plaque to hang on their door when they had sexual relations.
The plaque read … "Fornication Under Consent of the King" (F.U.C.K).
This is the origin of the word.
Fornication Under Consent of the King (F.U.C.K)

The weirdos

2008-11-01T14:14:00.001+05:30

Mind Typhoon

2008-10-25T12:25:00.003+05:30

My mind is in a roller coaster.
I dont know...its so fast today.
I cant remember what it was thinking the last second.
Everything is coming at a very fast pace...
All the things I want to do and remember.
And its skipping beats....

Anxiety disorder or Love mania?

2008-10-24T11:36:00.003+05:30

She suffered from an anxiety disorder. Or is it love mania? She lived alone in a house filled with people. She was alone, though people surrounded her. For days, she went through life in a tug of war between depression and anxiety, hopelessness and fear, sorrow and boredom. It was the never ending war between her heart and mind.

She often tried to justify why he left and why she did things she did. She often went to the doctors and counselors with symptoms of one disease or another, convinced she was dying of something. She sometimes went to the emergency room, so panicked that she was sure she was having a heart attack. Some days she just lay curled up on her bed, unable to find pleasure in any of the activities she enjoyed. Yet she continued to live.

Sanity Most Compromised

2008-10-22T09:54:00.002+05:30

She was blinded by his love. In love she saw everything and nothing. She never saw the storm that started building. The lightening and never felt the wind from before the storm. It was a storm, a typhoon that took everything that belonged to her, even half of her sanity.
The lights emitted from the computer made the whole place dark and more comfortable. He sat on the rocking chair, she sat on his lap. He rocked keeping her on his lap. Singing….

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Two Brothers

2008-10-21T12:25:00.003+05:30

She had two problematic brothers. For as long as she could remember, they had not been normal. Through her middle school, high school, and college years, they had been jailed and sentenced many times. She had fought knives, hangers, metal rods and anything solid away from them when they tried to hit or hurt another family member. She had seen them steal and sell things her mother or others own. She had seeing the unwavering love of her mother towards the two brothers. She had seen them, calling names and slangs at her father. She had seen how her father ignored the violent behavior in frustration. She had seen when they used drugs, stole stuff and brutally injured a person; coming running to hide at home from authorities. When reported they had manipulated everyone by saying that no one loved them and their own sister didn't even protect them. At this point, she broke down in tears.

Gradually, she became afraid of them. She didn't know how to talk to them, what to do or how to act. When they were in the Jail, she did not visit them out of fear. Fear of these people who were not the brother she knew, fear of the Jail and what it meant, fear of what might be wrong with her own brain and self. She felt bad about this, but did not know what to do. She felt helpless, frustrated and scared. Yet she continued to live.

Meaning was Enough

2008-10-20T13:42:00.001+05:30

She found her meaning. She knew that somewhere inside her was happiness and peace. However, she did not know how to reach the serenity. The constant prayers made her to come to the understanding that most of her unhappiness and anxiety were caused by constant memories of the past and fears of the future and unknown.

She realized the fun and joy she was missing, the beauty all around her, because she was hung up on the past and the future; which she had no account of. She realized that the past and future were illusions, which all she had was NOW and all she would ever have is now. She knew the only thing she could do was to live the present to the fullest and take control of work and life to change it for better. She knew that life was not ALL about pain and suffering; it was about being true to yourself and living each moment fully and to the best of her ability. It was also learning. Learning lessons from the past and others.

This was not easy to know, and sometimes she forgot. But she accepted the low times because it was all she could do. She forgot or became consciously ignorant of the facts of life. Being ignorant, escape responsibility and being unaccountable was easy. Sometimes she worried about the past or remembered what had made her happy before, but she observed this from a distance without letting it define her. A little part of her still worries! Or is it regret? Sometimes she thinks of the future, the place where life would take her and what would finally fulfill her, but she saw this and did not let the future become her meaning. She lived and perhaps the first time in her life, that was enough.

Likes

2008-10-14T13:46:00.004+05:30

She said:
I like stars
I like the night
I like the darkness
I like the breeze
i like the misty smell
I like rain
What do you like?

He said:
I like YOU

Wish someone sing this for me...:D

2008-10-04T23:14:00.003+05:30

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Theory of Conversation

2008-10-04T15:26:00.006+05:30

Traveling is a great joy. Without it, education is incomplete. Traveling opens the doors to knowledge. No wonder our elders say, "Seeing is believing'. Hence, I have been blessed with multiple opportunities to travel, inside the country and abroad. To live, laugh and love people all around me.

I have traveled in dhoni's', boats, ships, buses, trains, domestic flights and international flights too. Therefore, I have met several people around the globe. These traveling experiences have made me form my own equations and formulae about people I meet.

I have a theory about conversation. You may call it an empirical formula. It is that quantitatively speaking; 'conversation' is inversely proportional to the economic standing.

Quantity of speech or conversation = 1/Economic Standing

If you are travelling in a local dhoni or a boat which is equal to buses abroad, your fellow passengers will get into conversation with you very quickly and without reservation. If you are travelling on a safari/ship or in first class train, people will be a little more reserved. If you are travelling by air, the chances of conversation is still less. If you are travelling on an international flight, then you may travel 8 hours without exchanging a single word with the person next to you.

What do you say? Is my theory right? Believable? Acceptable? Experienced?

adapted from: Wise and Otherwise

Too choosy, too much or just enough?

2008-09-26T02:32:00.005+05:30

Dont be too built up or too skinny.
Dont be too macho or feminine.
Dont be too serious or funny.
Dont be too fat or thin.
Dont be too possessive or easy.
Dont be too dark or fair.
Dont be too clever or dumb.
Dont be too tall or short.
Dont be too emotional or harsh.
Dont be too sexual or sexless.

the other 2 members of the so called GYPSIES

2008-09-11T14:26:00.001+05:30

buBbLeS

2008-09-11T02:07:00.003+05:30

Life's treating us like a bubble..
Every event has its beauty...
Every occasion has its own colours...
Every adventure is has its size...
Its all to the beholder to capture..
The on-looker to enjoy the beauty while it lasts..
For me to grab the opportunity, while it knocks..
n make an occurrence that can be cherished in one day of forever.

...from less to NEW

2008-09-06T02:01:00.003+05:30

Long term vision
Bright eyes
Multi colours
Short hair
Big job
Many frenz
Simple environment
Adventurous escapades
thts the NEW me...

Why would I miss this place?

2008-08-28T09:37:00.002+05:30

What happened to me?
All of a sudden I am not the one I used to be,
I don’t know who I am anymore,
What I want in life and what I despise,

My values, wants and needs,
I don know how I got here…
Though it was days of planning,
Daily and continuous hard work,

What do I want now?

Do I want love or security?
Do I want to do the right thing or
do I want to be happy?
Its like I am going with the wind,
With no direction and destiny,
Wanting to experience all,

Wishing to meet everyone,
As if I am searching for something,
Or seeking for someone...

Will I be able to let go of the cravings,

The longings of everyday change,

Yearn for new experience,

And be stable and without moving on.

Life sucks at times....

2008-08-18T19:59:00.003+05:30

i dislike ppl who devalue others...
i dislike hypocrites and back biters...
N i hate and hate lairs!

Numbers!

2008-08-09T23:25:00.007+05:30

Elephant: Why is 6 afraid of only 7 but not other number??
Ant: Because... 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 ate 9!

Not satisfied

2008-08-09T23:21:00.002+05:30

without fulfillment and satisfaction the seed dies...
when the seed die, a life is stopped from coming to the world...
when life is stopped the whole universe around the seed stops!

Leaving...

2008-08-04T18:01:00.002+05:30

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whY?

2008-08-02T22:20:00.003+05:30

why do I get mad at people I feel close to...
why do I find it difficult to forgive people I feel close to...

when it is easy to forget and forgive strangers?

Time

2008-08-02T22:13:00.002+05:30

Sometimes I feel I am no more myself..
I am too value bound..
Too consumed
N focussed

With my cool
I am never aroused
But now its different
Maybe its how I perceive

I was so mad n sad
For the time
Its was seconds for the mind to change
But a decision life would remember

Hope

2008-08-01T13:01:00.003+05:30

Sound of the light, trees and animals
Bound by the natures naturals
Rising beyond dreams
Lighting above the horizons

Giving another chance
Living another truth or farce
This is what is called HOPE
The eventful everyday of forever

Maruhaba!

2008-06-15T22:11:00.003+05:30

The happiness, the unity and carefree attitude showed how much the winning is appreciated.
Never knew I had the urge and the national spirit too. However, the fun made everyone bend for something unique. And I m no different than the rest.
Getting wet in the rain, without any shivers!
Shouting with all the voice u had, without shame!
Clasping hands with whoever you saw, to congratulate!
Smiling and laughing without reason, to celebrate!
This is the happiest and resemblance of unity showed in recent years after the political conflicts by the entire community.
Youngsters, youth and adults.
A hope!
Rather a seed or one can say a dying fig was made to live and grow.
To come out and to express with all the mighty congratulation!

The Hiccups

2008-05-03T09:08:00.001+05:30

It was a beginning of an end.
The end of the trip and getting mad!
Noticing a missing part in an important document ‘Future….’
Which was laughed by the closest buddy, whom was expected to empathize.
Losing the most valued possession by a friend added weight to it.
The stress of the final show-up was always at the back of the mind.
Difficulties arose to make the plan happen, made a breakdown.
Although, the crash was never witnessed by a soul.
The resources missing needed for the show-up backed up the tension.
Though, it was seeing and thought as the end….
There was the ‘vomitish’ feeling in the pit of the stomach.
Rather than being free, the mind cracking was felt.
The two-faced bitch proved it wasn’t the end,
Rather it was the beginning of a new battle….

Bitch

2008-05-03T07:57:00.001+05:30

the two faced bitch will never leave me....

What God gave me:-D

2008-04-22T21:15:00.001+05:30

One forwarded SMS I got read,
I asked for a leaf and god gave me a tree,
I asked for a flower and god gave me a garden,
I asked for water and god gave me an ocean,
I asked for an angel and god gave me you,
But what I would see in my life is different..it can be read as...
I asked for Strength.. and God gave me Difficulties to make me strong,
I asked for Wisdom.. And God gave me Problems to solve,
I asked for Prosperity.. And God gave me Brain to work,
I asked for Courage.. And God gave me Danger to overcome,
I asked for Love.. And God gave me Troubled People to help,
I asked for Favors.. And God gave me Opportunities.

What do I do?

2008-04-04T11:35:00.003+05:30

Letting go is not easy
When you go down nicely
I am feeling helpless
I am feeling furious

I feel that she is judging me
I feel that she has a grudge on me
I feel that she hates me
I feel that she does unjust on me

Am I in the middle of a game?
If so I dunno the rule of the fame
Is there religious biasness?
Or is it just a personal prejudice

Is crying and praying the only thing I can do?
Giving up hope is what I won’t do
Though I m pushed to my limits
There is no end without gladness

Just like that!

2008-04-02T20:09:00.004+05:30

It all in circles.
Sitting near the laptop,
watching half of the movie and
going lying on the bed,
looking to the ceiling. Wondering,
thinking and worrying about nothing but everything under the sky.
After few minutes,
sitting near the laptop,
watch the rest of the movie.
Chat a friend or two. Make a call.
Eat something. ...
Go to the room....and so on!

I hate you!

2008-04-01T10:40:00.001+05:30

I will not answer the phone when you call, even though I want to talk to you. I will not call you even though that’s all I want to do. I will not reach out even though if I miss you. I will not tell a soul even though I see your dreams every night and day!

I will call you names!
I will make you cry!
I will make you hurt!

I will be mad at you. I will drive you away because I am afraid I might lose you and I will get more hurt. I will not allow you to hurt me. I have built a wall all around me. I am afraid if I let you near you will find a way to touch my inner self.

I need your constant attention, your reassurance but I will act with indifference to them. I will be jealous when you give attention to others and I will get mad if you ignore me. I will feel close to you and let you into my inner circle one day, only to get mad at you.

I am mad at you, please don’t let go of me.
I hate you, please don’t leave me.
I despise you, please don’t please don’t forget me.

The Butterfly

2008-04-01T10:34:00.002+05:30

One day a small opening appeared on a cocoon. A man sat and watched the caterpillar for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gone as far as it could and could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and cut off the remaining bit of cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, withered wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand, to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and withered wings. It never was able to fly.

In his kindness and love he did not understand, what he did was restricting cocoon. He did not realize the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were the way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into the wings so that it would be ready to fly once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. However, his overlook at the cocoon could have helped the butterfly to protect itself.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. However, with the love many forget and do not allow the first bit of struggle. If a child’s life is build without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly.

At some point though we think we are flying, what we do is crawl. How many of us are crippled and would never accept it? Are we crawling, walking or flying?

SULTHANA!

2008-03-30T01:01:00.009+05:30

Sister, I love!
Until death brings us apart by our doves
Loves, cares and helps others
Talkative and active at all hours
Homeliness is something she doesn’t know
Although, responsibility is something she owns
Never give up or complain about the stress
After a long day need a smile as a caress!

Friends

2008-03-29T17:32:00.001+05:30

You are my friends; which is the most beautiful thing. The reason why I weave my webs is just because I liked you. After all, what's a life, anyway? We're born, we live a little while and we die. A spider's life can't help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle.

Every END is a new BEGINNING

2008-03-28T22:33:00.002+05:30

I am no expert in relationship! In that sense I have been a failure. But I don’t intend to be one throughout my life. Through failed ones what I learnt was that each time something in our life ends, it creates room for a new experience. Within each new experience is a stepping-stone for another. Some are little tiny pebbles and others are big rocks. Some are fun and enjoyable while others are exhausting and tiring. However, with each passing day we learn why we are here, what our mission is and why different individuals come in and out of our lives.

Beautiful Maldives

2008-03-28T11:11:00.003+05:30

FREEDOM

2008-03-28T00:27:00.002+05:30

Second option if given a choice, ofcause WATER would be first!

My sisters and brothers

2008-03-27T22:28:00.003+05:30

My siblings are many
I just can’t live without any
Sometimes they bug me
Sometimes they hug me
Before as children we use to play
Today we have our own ways
I will always have a big and 2 little sisters
I will always have 3 little brothers
Although sometimes I wish I was an only child
I don’t know what I would do without them
Having them means I will always have friends
As I look back on memories of my life
I cherish the moments we had together
And I worry seeing them grown altogether
As I look up to my older sister
My younger ones looks up to me
Through good times and bad
We will always stick together
I love them dearly and
I could not see my life without them.

Twist your tongue?

2008-03-27T21:40:00.006+05:30

Peter Piper Picked a Pack of Pickled Pepper
A Pack of Pickled Pepper Peter Piper Picked
If Peter Piper Picked a Pack of Pickled Pepper
Where is the Pack of Pickled Pepper Peter Piper Picked?

HOW BRAVE AM I?

2008-03-27T00:21:00.004+05:30

Would I marry in black instead of white?

Cut my nails on a Wednesday night?

Give a witch a lock of my hair?

Break a mirror and not even care?

Jump up out or sleep in the wrong side of bed?

Never sing, but whistle instead?

Walk across black cats but care not a jot

Point at lightnings while shouting, 'So what?'

Is my favorite pet an owl?

Do I mention "badi edhuru" thrice and still feel glad?

Do I enjoy taking all these risks?

No, I DON'T n I am not brave

Stuttering: the evil twin of mine!

2008-03-26T23:29:00.003+05:30

Stuttering had its own evil twin,

and tenseness is one twin's snack.

The times she is hungry, it's harder to win,

harder to contain in an act.

But the good twin is good,

She will be a bit tough.

When you're composed, it is easy,

A bit nervous, she's though.

And it frustrates me to fight,

when I try and try to win.

but the evil twin will never let me flight,

It's blocked and sometimes who knows why it’s a twin.

It took 21 tries to pronounce pomegranate,

Siblings will laugh at the evil twin.

Out of nowhere the angel will cooperate,

Making the eyes glitter with dampening.

Out there are a few ways to capture the evil twin,

using hammers, cages and keys.

like stretching, canceling and easy beginning,

these hammers are called strategies.

It over-joys me when I do get it right,

When I don't, it just makes me try harder.

'cause stuttering is beatable, it's possible to win,

and when I did, my spirits got stronger.

Most important environmental issue

2008-03-26T23:06:00.002+05:30

There are several important environmental problems facing today's world. However, it is important to accept that climate change as the biggest global emergency right now; which is real, accelerating and human induced. The climate change compromises biodiversity. As a result, the hidden statistics on species loss is the face of the fisherman who will lose his livelihood as rising Ocean temperatures destroy the coral and decimate the fish stocks. In addition, the alarming decline in food production from increased drought and soil erosion makes a farmer who is no longer be able to feed his family. The increased frequency and intensity of storms results in families that will lose their homes and possessions. The sea level rise results the bonds of family, community and nationhood that will be irreversibly broken. For the people of an archipelago and small nation, dealing with climate change and associated sea level rise is an everyday fact of life.